Free Download The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent (Audiobook)
English | December 21, 2022 | ASIN: B0BQPJFM6B | M4B@128 kbps | 17h 25m | 950 MB
Authors: Betty Martin, Robyn Dalzen | Narrator: Madelon Guinazzo
Why would most people endure unwanted or unsatisfying touch, rather than speak up for their own boundaries and desires? It’s a question with a myriad of answers-and one that Dr. Betty Martin has explored in her 40 plus years as a hands-on practitioner, first as a chiropractor and later as a somatic sex educator, certified surrogate partner, and sacred intimate. In her client sessions, she noticed a pattern wherein many clients would "allow" or go along with discomfort or unease rather than speak up for what they wanted or didn’t want. Betty discovered there was a major component missing for people-the confidence that we have a choice about what is happening to us.
In her framework The Wheel of Consent, Betty traces the fundamental roots of consent back to our childhood conditioning. As children, we are taught that to be "good" we must ignore our body’s discomfort and be compliant: to finish our food even if we’re full, to go to bed even if we’re not tired, to let relatives hug and kiss us even if we don’t want to. We learn that our feelings don’t matter more than what is happening, and that we don’t have a choice but to go along, whether or not we want it.
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